The Mid-Life Renaissance

Why Old Goals Stop Working

In your twenties and thirties, everything tends to be about building. Build your skills. Build your network. Build your income. Build your reputation. Goals are just as simple: get more, beat others, climb higher.

This external focus works because you need to establish yourself. You have to prove you belong. That you can compete. That you deserve a seat at the table.

But somewhere in your forties, the game changes. You've proven yourself. You have the seat at the table. Now what?

Most successful people try to keep playing the same game with the same goals. More revenue, bigger team, higher status. But these goals now feel hollow because they're still focused on building yourself up rather than building others up.

You've graduated from survival mode, but you're still using survival goals. It's like trying to run a marathon using sprint techniques. Wrong tool for the stage you're in.

The Shift from Success to Significance

Want to know what changes everything in this situation? Shifting from goals about YOU to goals about IMPACT.

• Instead of "How do I make more money?" ask "How do I create more value?"
• Instead of "How do I beat my competitors?" ask "How do I elevate my industry?"
• Instead of "How do I build my reputation?" ask "How do I build my team's capabilities?"

This isn't about becoming soft or abandoning growth. It's about recognizing that your next level of success comes through others, not just through individual effort.

The most successful leaders I know made this transition somewhere in their forties. They stopped trying to be the smartest person in the room and started trying to make everyone else in the room smarter.

Their businesses grew faster as a result. It happened because they focused on developing people instead of just managing tasks. Their influence expanded because they became known for building others up, not just building themselves up.

And their life satisfaction increased too, because impact-driven goals create lasting fulfillment in ways that achievement-driven goals never could.

The New Goal Framework

As your career advances and success becomes established, your goal-setting needs to evolve as well. Look at it along these three perspectives:

The Passage of Time
Young professionals set quarterly and annual goals. Mature leaders think in decades. What do you want your industry, your community, your family to look like in ten years because of your influence?

Your Definition of Success
Instead of just tracking what you gained, track what others gained because of you. Instead of just counting your wins, count the people you developed who went on to create their own wins. When you look at success with a different lens, it can take on a whole new vibrant appearance.

A Focus on Legacy

The longer you’re successful, the more inevitable one question becomes: What will continue to create value long after you're not directly involved? What systems, people, and principles will carry forward your impact?

Embracing these shifts doesn't mean abandoning personal growth goals. It means expanding them to include the growth of others. The best part? This approach actually accelerates your own success because impact-focused leaders attract better opportunities, stronger teams, and more sustainable growth. That's a renaissance in action.

What's Next?

The shift from success-focused to impact-focused goals isn't automatic. It requires intentional redesign of how you think about achievement and progress.

If you're ready to stop chasing goals that no longer fit and start setting the right ones for your next phase, that's exactly what we tackle in JUMPSTART, my six-week program that helps you identify goals that match where you are in your career and life today, not where you were ten years ago. Find out more here.

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